Shittiest parent ever? I'd say so, (video)

[The Gay Science]

I think it's ridiculously excessive. All the girl did was vent about doing chores. Who ******** cares? She's doing her chores, isn't she? Is she getting good grades in school? Is she staying out of trouble? If so, I don't think it's at all necessary to be such a p***k because she had a little rant over Facebook. If he's so much of a sobbing baby that he can't understand teens sometimes naturally buck authority, he could have told her that her rant hurt his feelings and discussed with her why he felt doing these chores was beneficial to her development as a person. Unfortunately, his expectations are unrealistic and his ego is as big as his shoot 'em up Texan attitude.

I wouldn't respect a raving manchild like this if he were my father. I might avoid doing things to trigger another of these tantrums that put even your prissiest teen drama queen to shame, but it damn well wouldn't earn my respect.

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Juxtaposed In America

there's a difference between being a carbon copy and being able to instill beliefs you find are important.

So why fault him to try and make her better than him? (sinc ehe's apparently immature for posting this to YT)

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please link the time where he says he's trying to teach her not to vent on facebook.

In the follow-up article, the last paragraph:
Second: We have always told her what you put online can affect you forever. Years later a single Facebook/MySpace/Twitter comment can affect her eligibility for a good job and can even get her fired from a job she already has. She’s seen first-hand through this video the worst possible scenario that can happen. One post, made by her Dad, will probably follow him the rest of his life; just like those mean things she said on Facebook will stick with the people her words hurt for a long time to come. Once you put it out there, you can’t take it back, so think carefully before you use the internet to broadcast your thoughts and feelings.

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he's incredibly childish for doing that, not only for that but for posting a youtube video about it.

From the follow-up article:
Q: Why did y...ou decide to reprimand your daughter over a public medium like YouTube?

A: Well, I actually just had to load the video file itself on YouTube because it’s a better upload process than Facebook, but the intended audience was her Facebook friends and the parents of those friends who saw her post and would naturally assume we let our children get away with something like that. So, to answer “Why did you reprimand her over a public medium like Facebook” my answer is this: Because that’s how I was raised. If I did something embarrassing to my parents in public (such as a grocery store) I got my tail tore up right there in front of God and everyone, right there in the store. I put the reprisal in exactly the same medium she did, in the exact same manner. Her post went out to about 452 people. Mine went out to about 550 people… originally. I had no idea it would become what it did.

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you see q.

there is a difference between being 24

and being out of the house

and living with your parents

and going to high school

And what difference is that? You live on your own, you should figure out how to think for yourself?

Do you advocate the kicking the bird out of the nest mentality, jux? We should give our kids everything so they can fall flat on their a** and learn on their own what it's like to reach rock bottom rather than prepare them for the real world gradually?

[Toddenham]

He should have just put a bullet in her instead.
I ******** hate whiny girls.

[Masturbating_Rot_Crow]

Usagi Blue Bomber

Masturbating_Rot_Crow

Usagi Blue Bomber

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This thread already has about 8 pages on this subject. And is on the first page.
Learn2readb4reposting.

That aside,

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I figured this should be posted from the follow-up article:

(The dad's response to people thinking his punishment is abuse)

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While the whole point of this story isn’t funny, what is funny to me is how weak some people out there think kids are. Our kids are as strong as we help them to be. My daughter took a horrible day in her life, had her crying fit, then got over it, accepted her punishment, and hasn’t let it (or people’s comments) destroy her strength. I don’t get any credit for that. She’s strong and able to overcome almost anything life throws at her.

I never said it was abuse, I just think it's douchey as s**t.
And I'm not going to read every thread in the LD just to make sure I'm not re-posting something.

It's his laptop, he can destroy it whenever he wants, and she gave him a great reason.
I was grounded for 9 weeks with no tv or internet once. Some people thought my mom was being way too hard. You know what? It was a fantastic time. Not only did I learn my lesson, I got so much crap done, and my mom and I bonded.
I would bet good money this girl is going to have the same response, and anyone who thinks she's just being tortured are the same people who have s**t children and don't understand why the poor little ******** can't hold a job.

I never said she was tortured, and of course he has every right to do whatever he wants with the laptop that he bought. That doesn't make it right at all.

I fail to see the wrongdoing. If he can and it's fine, and she brought it on her, what's the problem?

[Ammish Heywood]

Usagi Blue Bomber

I never said she was tortured, and of course he has every right to do whatever he wants with the laptop that he bought. That doesn't make it right at all.

Do you know how 'hurtful' facebook comments are? Any comments that get made on the internet sticks forever. Once you put something on the internet, you can't take it back. As one person said, a comment like that can ruin someone's life.

Her father is teaching her the consequences of that and this is after repeated warning. Until then, I suggest you shut up and wait until you're a parent. If you can come up with a better parenting solution in a similar situation, then I applaud you.

[The Gay Science]

Ammish Heywood

Usagi Blue Bomber

I never said she was tortured, and of course he has every right to do whatever he wants with the laptop that he bought. That doesn't make it right at all.

Do you know how 'hurtful' facebook comments are? Any comments that get made on the internet sticks forever. Once you put something on the internet, you can't take it back. As one person said, a comment like that can ruin someone's life.

Her father is teaching her the consequences of that and this is after repeated warning. Until then, I suggest you shut up and wait until you're a parent. If you can come up with a better parenting solution in a similar situation, then I applaud you.

Except, you know, nothing she said had that kind of lasting impact. If anyone seriously thinks someone is going to reject a sound application because they somehow dredged up a ranting post a women made when she was 15 about her parents making her do too many chores, they're completely retarded. Would someone reject an adult man who shot a video of himself having a batshit rant and then shooting his daughter's laptop? Much more likely. If anything, he's setting an absolutely horrible example.

A better solution? Actually sit the girl down and talk to her like a rational human being about why he believes these chores and demands to buy luxuries herself are for her. Of course she's likely to misunderstand his reasons off the bat, she's a 15 year old. Throwing a bigger tantrum is not teaching her anything except that tantrums are the way big people solve their problems.

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The Gay Science

A better solution? Actually sit the girl down and talk to her like a rational human being about why he believes these chores and demands to buy luxuries herself are for her. Of course she's likely to misunderstand his reasons off the bat, she's a 15 year old. Throwing a bigger tantrum is not teaching her anything except that tantrums are the way big people solve their problems.

From the follow-up article.

Q: How did your daughter respond to the video and to what happened to her laptop?

A: She responded to the video with “I can’t believe you shot my computer!” That was the first thing she said when she found out about it. Then we sat and we talked for quite a long while on the back patio about the things she did, the things I did in response, etc.

Later after she’d had time to process it and I’d had time to process her thoughts on the matters we discussed, we were back to a semi-truce… you know that uncomfortable moment when you’re in the kitchen with your child after an argument and you’re both waiting to see which one’s going to cave in and resume normal conversation first? Yeah, that moment. I told her about the video response and about it going viral and about the consequences it could have on our family for the next couple of days and asked if she wanted to see some of the comments people had made. After the first few hundred comments, she was astounded with the responses.

People were telling her she was going to commit suicide, commit a gun-related crime, become a drug addict, drop out of school, get pregnant on purpose, and become a stripper because she’s too emotionally damaged now to be a productive member of society. Apparently stripper was the job-choice of most of the commenters. Her response was “Dude… it’s only a computer. I mean, yeah I’m mad but pfft.” She actually asked me to post a comment on one of the threads (and I did) asking what other job fields the victims of laptop-homicide were eligible for because she wasn’t too keen on the stripping thing.

[EverForever8]

Usagi Blue Bomber

He flips out and acts like a total baby over a comment his daughter made over ******** facebook and shoots up her laptop, and he wonders why his kid has no respect for him?

I dunno what makes me want to shoot myself more, the actual video or the positive reaction it's getting.



Discuss:
-Terrible parenting

I completely 100% support this father. Little s**t children should be put in their place when they act disrespectful. If a kid can b***h online about her parents, then why couldn't her parents do the same for her? If I ever have kids (not looking like it honestly, I don't like kids) that's how I'm going to parent. If they act like little shits, take away their stuff. You don't just GET stuff. You're not entitled to s**t just because mommy and daddy can pay for it. You do chores in the home you live in. Above all, you respect your parents (as long as they're not abusing you of course) for what they DO give you and thank them they didn't ******** abort your a**.

[The Gay Science]

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The Gay Science

A better solution? Actually sit the girl down and talk to her like a rational human being about why he believes these chores and demands to buy luxuries herself are for her. Of course she's likely to misunderstand his reasons off the bat, she's a 15 year old. Throwing a bigger tantrum is not teaching her anything except that tantrums are the way big people solve their problems.

From the follow-up article.

Q: How did your daughter respond to the video and to what happened to her laptop?

A: She responded to the video with “I can’t believe you shot my computer!” That was the first thing she said when she found out about it. Then we sat and we talked for quite a long while on the back patio about the things she did, the things I did in response, etc.

Later after she’d had time to process it and I’d had time to process her thoughts on the matters we discussed, we were back to a semi-truce… you know that uncomfortable moment when you’re in the kitchen with your child after an argument and you’re both waiting to see which one’s going to cave in and resume normal conversation first? Yeah, that moment. I told her about the video response and about it going viral and about the consequences it could have on our family for the next couple of days and asked if she wanted to see some of the comments people had made. After the first few hundred comments, she was astounded with the responses.

People were telling her she was going to commit suicide, commit a gun-related crime, become a drug addict, drop out of school, get pregnant on purpose, and become a stripper because she’s too emotionally damaged now to be a productive member of society. Apparently stripper was the job-choice of most of the commenters. Her response was “Dude… it’s only a computer. I mean, yeah I’m mad but pfft.” She actually asked me to post a comment on one of the threads (and I did) asking what other job fields the victims of laptop-homicide were eligible for because she wasn’t too keen on the stripping thing.

I'm not really that confident that the things this guy says, his personal side of the story, are absolute truth. Just because he puts it up on his Facebook doesn't mean it's fact. I don't necessarily believe she totally accepted everything he did as great just because he says she did.

But that's irrelevant to me. The fact is, he still showed her that first response as throwing a tantrum was normal and acceptable. Having a civil conversation after the fact doesn't suddenly make the first lesson go away.

[Forever Eccentric]

He sure did get his point across and told her.

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The Gay Science

I'm not really that confident that the things this guy says, his personal side of the story, are absolute truth. Just because he puts it up on his Facebook doesn't mean it's fact. I don't necessarily believe she totally accepted everything he did as great just because he says she did.

But that's irrelevant to me. The fact is, he still showed her that first response as throwing a tantrum was normal and acceptable. Having a civil conversation after the fact doesn't suddenly make the first lesson go away.

He said "the next time [you post s**t on facebook] happens, I'm putting a bullet in your laptop." She posted s**t on facebook again. He put a bullet in her laptop.

Following up on something he said he'd do previously is overreacting?
I fail to see it.

Everything else I really can't comment on.