Shittiest parent ever? I'd say so, (video)

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Itherial

What was the comment she made on facebook anyway( didn't watch the video )?

He reads the comment in the video.
Just watch the damn video.

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Usagi Blue Bomber

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Usagi Blue Bomber

If my dad acted like a whiny little baby and shot the s**t out of my laptop over something stupid I posted on facebook, why would I respect him?

Because the last time you spoke s**t about him, he said he'd put a bullet in the laptop if it happened again.

That's why.

...What?

Because this is at least the second time she's done something like this. And if you had watched the video, you would've heard him say that the last time he punished her, he said "If it happens again, I'm putting a bullet through the laptop."

Well, she did it again, so he made true on his threat.

Furthermore, if my kid acted like a whiny baby and posted stupid s**t on facebook demeaning me, why should I respect them?

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From the follow-up article (answers by the dad)

Q: How effective do you think your punishment was (i.e. shooting her laptop and reading her letter online)?

A: I think it was very effective on one front. She apparently didn’t remember being talked to about previous incidents, nor did she seem to remember the effects of having it taken away, nor did the eventual long-term grounding seem to get through to her. I think she thought “Well, I’ll just wait it out and I’ll get it back eventually.” Her behavior corrected for a short time, and then it went back to what it was before and worse. This time, she won’t ever forget and it’ll be a long time before she has an opportunity to post on Facebook again. I feel pretty certain that every day from then to now, whenever one of her friends mentions Facebook, she’ll remember it and wish she hadn’t done what she did.

The second lesson I want her to learn is the value of a dollar. We don’t give her everything she asks for, but you can all imagine what it’s like being the only grandchild and the first child. Presents and money come from all sides when you’re young. Most of the things she has that are “cool” were bought or gifted that way. She’s always asked for very few things, but they’re always high-dollar things (iPod, laptop, smartphone, etc). Eventually she gets given enough money to get them. That’s not learning the value of a dollar. Its knowing how to save money, which I greatly applaud in her, but it’s not enough. She wants a digital SLR camera. She wants a 22 rifle like mine. She wants a car. She wants a smart phone with a data package and unlimited texting. (I have to hear about that one every week!)

She thinks all these things are supposed to be given to her because she’s got parents. It’s not going to happen, at least not in our house. She can get a job and work for money just like everyone else. Then she can spend it on anything she wants (within reason). If she wants to work for two months to save enough to purchase a $1000 SLR camera with an $800 lens, then I can guarantee she’ll NEVER leave it outside at night. She’ll be careful when she puts it away and carries it around. She’ll value it much more because she worked so hard to get it. Instead, with the current way things have been given to her, she's on about her fourth phone and just expects another one when she breaks the one she has. She's not sorry about breaking it, or losing it, she's sorry only because she can't text her friends. I firmly believe she'll be a LOT more careful when she has to buy her own $299.00 Motorola Razr smartphone.

Until then, she can do chores, and lots and lots of them, so the people who ARE feeding her, clothing her, paying for all her school trips, paying for her musical instruments, can have some time to relax after they finish working to support her and the rest of the family. She can either work to make money on her own, or she will do chores to contribute around the house. She’s known all along that all she has to do is get a job and a lot of these chores will go away. But if you’re too lazy to work even to get things you want for yourself, I’m certainly not going to let you sit idly on your rear-end with your face glued to both the TV and Facebook for 5 to 6 hours per night. Those days are over.

[Itherial]

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Itherial

What was the comment she made on facebook anyway( didn't watch the video )?

He reads the comment in the video.
Just watch the damn video.

.....My niece did worse then that and got less of a punishment. She stole my sister's car and went for a joy ride with 3 other people in the car. She is only 13 and she took that car right into a telephone pole and the car slid into a creek. She needs boot camp and her phone and computer burned.

[Masturbating_Rot_Crow]

Usagi Blue Bomber

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This thread already has about 8 pages on this subject. And is on the first page.
Learn2readb4reposting.

That aside,

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I figured this should be posted from the follow-up article:

(The dad's response to people thinking his punishment is abuse)

Quote:

While the whole point of this story isn’t funny, what is funny to me is how weak some people out there think kids are. Our kids are as strong as we help them to be. My daughter took a horrible day in her life, had her crying fit, then got over it, accepted her punishment, and hasn’t let it (or people’s comments) destroy her strength. I don’t get any credit for that. She’s strong and able to overcome almost anything life throws at her.

I never said it was abuse, I just think it's douchey as s**t.
And I'm not going to read every thread in the LD just to make sure I'm not re-posting something.

It's his laptop, he can destroy it whenever he wants, and she gave him a great reason.
I was grounded for 9 weeks with no tv or internet once. Some people thought my mom was being way too hard. You know what? It was a fantastic time. Not only did I learn my lesson, I got so much crap done, and my mom and I bonded.
I would bet good money this girl is going to have the same response, and anyone who thinks she's just being tortured are the same people who have s**t children and don't understand why the poor little ******** can't hold a job.

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Juxtaposed In America

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Usagi Blue Bomber

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Usagi Blue Bomber

If my dad acted like a whiny little baby and shot the s**t out of my laptop over something stupid I posted on facebook, why would I respect him?

Because the last time you spoke s**t about him, he said he'd put a bullet in the laptop if it happened again.

That's why.

...What?

Because this is at least the second time she's done something like this. And if you had watched the video, you would've heard him say that the last time he punished her, he said "If it happens again, I'm putting a bullet through the laptop."

Well, she did it again, so he made true on his threat.

Furthermore, if my kid acted like a whiny baby and posted stupid s**t on facebook demeaning me, why should I respect them?

because q. you taught them how to act.

you failed as a parent in some shape or form.

Then it's time to correct that mistake.

If my kid isn't a carbon copy of me, am I a failure of a parent? No.
Kids can grow and develop on their own. It's up to parents to make sure it goes in the right direction. If it doesn't, that's not immediately the parent's fault. It's only the parent's fault if the parent takes no means to affect or correct a negative direction the child is taking.

This dad is doing that. He taught her to the best of his ability to not talk s**t about people, to not vent publically on facebook, to not use cuss words. She broke the rule once, he punished her. She broke the rule again, he's punishing her again.

Every kid is different. Every kid learns in different ways. For some kids, a time out is enough. For other kids, they won't learn unless you ground them, and still other kids learn in other ways. It was obvious that this girl didn't learn from the month grounding, so it was time to pursue a different tactic.

He followed up on a previous threat: "If it happens again, I'm putting a bullet in your laptop". She did it again, he put a bullet in her laptop. Now she knows he doesn't make empty threats.

How is any of this a mistake in parenting? At what point to people own up for their own mistakes? If I go out at 24 and murder someone, is that a fault in parenting or a fault in bad judgment on my behalf? Where is the line?

[Doctor g r a c i e]

Dude you're a p***y. It was so necessary. She was being a whiney b***h and needed it. I bet she won't whine about doing 5 minutes of housework anymore now will she? Spoiled brat.

[Ammish Heywood]

Juxtaposed In America

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Juxtaposed In America

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Usagi Blue Bomber

...What?

Because this is at least the second time she's done something like this. And if you had watched the video, you would've heard him say that the last time he punished her, he said "If it happens again, I'm putting a bullet through the laptop."

Well, she did it again, so he made true on his threat.

Furthermore, if my kid acted like a whiny baby and posted stupid s**t on facebook demeaning me, why should I respect them?

because q. you taught them how to act.

you failed as a parent in some shape or form.

Then it's time to correct that mistake.

If my kid isn't a carbon copy of me, am I a failure of a parent? No.
Kids can grow and develop on their own. It's up to parents to make sure it goes in the right direction. If it doesn't, that's not immediately the parent's fault. It's only the parent's fault if the parent takes no means to affect or correct a negative direction the child is taking.

This dad is doing that. He taught her to the best of his ability to not talk s**t about people, to not vent publically on facebook, to not use cuss words. She broke the rule once, he punished her. She broke the rule again, he's punishing her again.

Every kid is different. Every kid learns in different ways. For some kids, a time out is enough. For other kids, they won't learn unless you ground them, and still other kids learn in other ways. It was obvious that this girl didn't learn from the month grounding, so it was time to pursue a different tactic.

He followed up on a previous threat: "If it happens again, I'm putting a bullet in your laptop". She did it again, he put a bullet in her laptop. Now she knows he doesn't make empty threats.

How is any of this a mistake in parenting? At what point to people own up for their own mistakes? If I go out at 24 and murder someone, is that a fault in parenting or a fault in bad judgment on my behalf? Where is the line?

there's a difference between being a carbon copy and being able to instill beliefs you find are important.

please link the time where he says he's trying to teach her not to vent on facebook.

he's incredibly childish for doing that, not only for that but for posting a youtube video about it.

you see q.

there is a difference between being 24

and being out of the house

and living with your parents

and going to high school

Okay, Juxtaposed. Tell me. How would you punish her? And you can't 'slap' her.

[klebold]

You obviously have no clue what it's like to be a parent, let alone a caring parent. Her parents had the option of abortion, but they allowed her to enter into this world, what gives her the right to mooch off people who have dedicated so much care to her?

This stupid little brat is misunderstanding the point of chores, they're not designed to cause stress, they're designed to prepare your child to take care of themselves. I would never let me own kids walk all over me like she tried to, this was a perfectly equal punishment, since it was technically HIS laptop, and he's defending his title as a father, and not just some bossy adult. Without chores, I wouldn't be able to live in this house alone, wouldn't know how to do laundry, wouldn't know how to do the dishes, or even operate a washer, I wouldn't clean, maintain this house at all, quit crying about parents making you do chores and grow the ******** up.

Parents need to stop letting their kids do whatever they want whenever they want.