Fizzlesticks' Fantastic Safer Sex Kit

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[Fizzlesticks]

Fizzlesticks' Fantastic Safer Sex Kit
Resource and Support Group
The Official Thread

If you have spent time in the LD or LI in the last year or so, it's likely that you will have seen me around. I thought it was time to create a sex ed. thread that was accessible 24/7, and I believe this is the place to do it. This thread is designed to inform, but is also a place for discussion of safer sex, better sex, and sex education.

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If you have any questions, feel free to post here; if you'd like to keep things private, feel free to PM me, but remember that I can only give my opinion in many cases; I cannot replace a consultation with doctor or partner.

If you are insecure, if you are worried, if you are unsatisfied: try this thread.
This kit is kept alive by your discussion, so stick around.

Recent topics for discussion:
- Experiences with the Pill and hormonal birth control
- Effectiveness of different latex barriers
- Lube preferences
- STD management

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If you have suggestions for articles to add to this resource, please let me know. By that same token, if you would like to challenge something in this thread, please let me know, and I'll be happy to discuss it with you.


Index
1. Introduction - please make sure you read this whole first post
2. About the Authors and Acknowledgments
3. Fizzlesticks' Fantastic Safer Sex Kit - a list of everything you need to have discussed with your partner - and made sure of yourself - before engaging in partnered sexual activity.
4. If Sex Hurts, You're Doing It Wrong! Experiencing painful sex? It's solvable.
5. It's 10 O'clock at Night; Do You Know Where Your Clitoris Is? A fact sheet about what makes women tick.
6. Useful links and resources + Bibliography including Condom links. Having trouble finding the right condom for you or your partner? Try this section, researched by The Original Vest Man.
7. Caution: Slippery When Wet - your guide to lubricants, by Sophist
8. Sexual health: self-examination - by Vest Man The Original
9. Let's talk about your hymen, honey - by LI queen Aphrodine.
10. You Don't Know d**k - Kanis's Guide to the p***s


Your responsibilities while posting here:
- Please be respectful, tolerant, patient and mature at all times.
- Please do not post images or text that are not condoned by Gaia's TOS; this is not a place for cybering or porn.
- Frankie say relax; chill out here all you like.

Feel free to distribute any of the information here, but please give credit where credit is due.

With love,
Fizzlesticks [2008]

[Fizzlesticks]

About the Authors

Fizzlesticks
I am an Australian university student, queer person, writer and editor with an interest in sex and sexuality. I also love poetry, children's literature and vintage hats. My other Gaia haunt is Original Poetry/Lyrics down in the Writers' forum.

I also run Fizzlesticks' Grammar and Punctuation Guide over in the Writers' Forum. Don't know your apostrophes from your aphorisms? Try this thread.

All the information I received at my high school was "Tab A goes in Slot B after marriage", along with the obligatory condom warning. No information was given about being comfortable with our own bodies and they way they work in terms of pleasure, little info was given about additional birth- and STD-control methods, and certainly no info was given about safer same-sex relationships. I can actually remember my teacher (a rather slow gentleman) giggling nervously and saying, "Is it all right if I say, 'p***s', girls?" stressed

I had to find out 'the rest' for myself from dodgy sources over time. Luckily, I've now found better sources, and I'm here to share them. I want young people to have a reliable, consistent resource that they can access at any time, minus simpering Phys Ed. teachers!


Guest Contributors
- to come -


A big wet thank you
to the following people for your support and knowledge:
- LorienLlewellyn ~ you helped me develop the idea for these kits in the first place!
- Vest Man The Original ~ a champion supporter
- Sophist ~ a fab guest-contributor
- SwampRabbit ~ my best buddy in the RL and always puts up with me rambling about sex.
- Sitaris
- Easy Listening Nightmares
- BomanTheFirst
- Dax Bailley
- TheOneCalledMaria

Generous Benefactors
- Master Kanis ~ You ensured we were set for LIFE with 250 000g. How can we thank you? "A double Jager and a Redbull?" - MK
- Vsalinas ~ 150 000g. Bow down to Vsalinas.
- D-A-I-93 ~ GO Player heart
- Kyrochi ~ an amazing 20 000g heart
- Misanthropic Clown ~ a whopping 15000g heart
- Angel Kumara ~ hooray, 6000g! heart

Send donations to Fizzlesticks with 'Safer Sex Kit' in the topic line. Thank you.
Insofar, we've given away around 5000g in prizes, and 5000g in payment to contributors.

[Fizzlesticks]

Fizzlesticks' Fantastic Safer Sex Kit - Checklist
Or 'Things to consider to help you decide if you're ready for sex'
3rd Edition! | NB: In this article, sex refers to all sexual activity.

- Gynecologist or GP appointment
Before you have sex, both you and your partner/s should have general check-ups and be tested for STIs, even if you've never been sexually active before (many STIs can be picked up in other ways, and can lie dormant).
Continue to have check-ups once or even twice a year, particularly if you have multiple partners. Make sure you have transport to the doctors or a Planned Parenthood Centre (which offers cheap or free services & supplies). Take someone you trust with you if you're feeling nervous. Remember: always be totally honest with your doctor.

What will happen at your first gynecology visit?

- Emotional Stability
Are you sure you want to have sex? Are you in a stable frame of mind at the moment? Can you deal with emotional/physical consequences of sex? Have you got an open, honest relationship with your partner? Supportive friends and family? Check out this article: Safer Sex for your Heart
Do you know what consent means? Do you know how to tell when it's okay and not okay to have sex with someone, or for someone to have sex with you? Read up: Navigating Consent

- Plan B
Do you have access to the morning-after pill, if the condom breaks? What about pregnancy tests? Have you made decisions together about what you will do in the case of pregnancy or Sexually Transmitted Infection?

- Money
You're going to need cash to fill your safer sex toolkit (with items you can find at the supermarket, pharmacy and doctor's surgery ), and to cover you in case of emergency. Do you have a steady income?


Safer Sex Toolkit
Which of the following suit you and your partner's needs? Make sure you know where to get them and how to use them.

- Condoms
Help prevent contraction of sexually transmitted diseases (STIs) during vaginal intercourse, a**l sex, fellatio (oral sex on a man) and when sharing dildos. Help prevent pregnancy during intercourse.
- NB: Spermicidal condoms are NOT recommended. They can irritate the vulva/v****a, and increase the chance of urinary tract infections in women.
- NB: Flavoured condoms are for oral sex ONLY; they will encourage infections in the v****a if used during intercourse.

- Latex gloves
Manual sex involves using the hands to stimulate the genitals. If you have rough skin, wounds (cuts, scratches, warts) or long nails, you could easily hurt your partner. Latex (or an alternative like vinyl if you're allergic) gloves can solve this problem! Also, really handy for play during menstruation and for safer a**l play!

- Dental dams
This thin sheath of latex protects against STIs during cunnilingus (oral sex on a woman, 'going down') and analingus/rimming (oral stimulation of the a**s). A cut open condom or latex glove will also suffice. Despite myths to the contrary, oral sex does still present a risk of catching STIs (herpes, aka cold sores, particularly). Also, really handy for play during menstruation!
By the way, Glyde makes dams in flavours - raspberry, vanilla and cola. blaugh

- Lube!
Water-based or silicon-based lube helps make entry easier during penetrative sex, helps prevent latex barriers tearing, is relaxing and keeps everything lubricated. It is essential for many couples. NB: Beware of oil-based lubricants; they break down latex and should not be used with any latex product.
True (irrelevant) story: Fizz once slurged 'tester' Strawberry Shortcake-flavoured lube all over herself at an adult store. Be careful - it's slippery. xp

- The Pill and other contraceptives
If you are sexually active in a heterosexual relationship, it's wise to consider going on the Pill or an alternative hormonal contraceptive to help prevent pregnancy. You will need to discuss possible side-effects and which contraceptive might be right for you with your doctor.

Scarleteen's Birth Control Bingo is a list of all the possible BC methods out there, and their effectiveness.

Got everything? Sure of everything? Go have fun.

[Fizzlesticks]

How to enjoy pain-free sex every time, especially the first time!

It is a myth that, during first-time sex, girls must bleed and feel pain. Yet many women experience unnecessary pain during sex, and consider it normal. For the vast majority, sex does not have to be, and should not be painful. There are many, many things you can do to ensure pain-free sex, and if they do not work, you need to see a doctor.

A note on hymens: Hymens have nothing to do with whether you've had sex or not, from a biological perspective. No one, not even a doctor, can tell whether you've had sex from looking at you. The hymen (renamed by the modern medical community as the 'corona') is a thin, flexible membrane at the entrance of the v****a that naturally degenerates over time (more rapidly from the beginning of puberty). Some hymens are particularly thick or inflexible, and can cause pain during sexual activity—if you believe this may be the case for you, it's important that you see a doctor to discuss ways that this can be solved. I really recommend reading the ground-breaking myth-busting info in this article:

My Corona: The Anatomy Formerly Known as the Hymen & the Myths That Surround It

Keep in mind that the v****a naturally expands several inches and lubricates during arousal. After sex / masturbation / arousal ends, the v****a returns to its original size. Sex doesn't permanently stretch the v****a; only childbirth can do that--and even then, pelvic floor exercises (kegels) can resolve this.

- Lubrication - makes penetrative sex of any kind a lot easier. Use water-based or silicone-based lubricant with latex condoms.

- Physical health - if you are feeling under the weather or have a compromised immune system, it might be harder for you to become completely aroused. A nutritious diet and regular exercise really are essential for a good sex life. Some drugs—including prescription drugs such as anti-depressants, and recreational drugs and alcohol—may also affect your libido.

- Mental health and relaxation - are you comfortable with your partner? To have penetrative sex, you must be completely at ease. Is your partner gentle? Mental health is also important—if you are feeling anxious, depressed, pressured, or have body-image issues, arousal may be more difficult.

- Foreplay - Pleasurable penetrative sex does not exist without other sexual activity / arousal (whatever floats your boat!) to precede it. You need enough time to relax and become well lubricated.

- Masturbation - if you are comfortable with your body, understand your own anatomy, and are able to communicate what you enjoy with your partner, sex will be all the more enjoyable. Try www.scarleteen.com and www.clitical.com.

- Expectations - be positive. If you expect sex to be painful, you'll tense up so much that it will hurt. See article below on the related condition, vaginismus.


From ow to wow! Demystifying painful intercourse at Scarleteen.com.
Vaginismus - This is a condition in which the pelvic floor muscles contract involuntarily in response to penetration or the idea of penetration. Depending on the cause, therapy (such as psychotherapy) and / or physiotherapy is used to treat it.
When Sex Hurts - A Redbook article on some of the illnesses and conditions than can cause or contribute to painful sex.

Sex still painful? See a doctor.

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[Fizzlesticks]

IT'S 10 O'CLOCK AT NIGHT; DO YOU KNOW WHERE YOUR CLITORIS IS?
(a.k.a. What's Up Down There)


Dedicated to all the girls and women I've spoken to lately who said, "Where's that?"


~ Here are some things you should know (because I'm tired of women being ignorant of their own bodies). With love, from Fizzlesticks. ~

- The vulva is an all-encompassing term for your genitals, ladies. Viva la Vulva. There has been a vow of silence about what's 'down there' for too long. They're just body parts! The clitoris is located at the top of the vulva (towards your stomach, rather than your back), where the labia minora (lips) meet. Its ‘head’ is a small, hooded nub composed of erectile tissue, but it's a lot more [mind-bogglingly] expansive than that.

- There is presently no valid scientific evidence (despite studies) to prove the existence of a 'g-spot' (as a unique organ); however, research and logic indicate that this sensitive area of the v****a is in fact the back of the clitoris.

- The clitoris has over 8000 nerve-endings - that's twice the number in the p***s, and in a much more concentrated area. Isn't that cool? This is what makes this erogenous zone so sensitive; in fact, some woman find that the 'head' is too sensitive for direct stimulation (so be sure to ask your partner what she likes!).

- The clitoris is the only organ in the human body designed purely for pleasure. It has no other function.

- According to HIStory, the clitoris was 'discovered' in 1593, when a lawyer reputedly identified the organ, and declared it a sure sign of guilt at a witch trial. Righto.

- In the 70s, Dr Shere Hite found that 70 - 80% of women will never orgasm through penetration alone. In fact, pleasure experienced during penetration is mostly indirect pressure on the clitoris - and this is NORMAL -- the v****a simply doesn't have many nerve endings. Thanks to patriarchy, sex has always been defined as 'Insert Tab A into Slot B'; this needs redefining to accommodate the way *both* sexes experience pleasure! Sex encompasses ALL sexual activity. Go to: excellent Scarleteen article on the topic.

- Clitoridectomy - female genital mutilation - has been carried out on around one hundred million women in Africa alone. This practice - which holds religious and cultural significance - involves the removal and/or sewing together of all or part of the female genitals, stripping a woman of her sexuality and independence, and making urination, menstruation, sex, birth and day-to-day life painful, and often humiliating.

In my opinion, a better knowledge of one's own sexuality - without shame or secrets - contributes to one's health and self-confidence. In a world that constantly seeks to quieten or change us, women deserve every shred of confidence we can get.

My love to Dr Shere Hite and Eve Ensler.

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Useful Links and Resources + Bibliography

Threads within Gaia

List of free or reduced-cost birth control options

Sex-Ed and What They May Have Missed - This is turning into rather a comprehensive resource.




One to avoid: Sex Q&A with Caffeinated Aspirin and staff. There's misinformation here that hasn't been corrected, so I suggest you avoid this thread. I'll remove the strike-out when they get their facts right--but the OP has informed me she does not intend to do that.


Websites

Everybody

Scarleteen - Pink Slip - Intelligent, entertaining sexuality resource for teenagers. Some of my favourites:
- Ready or Not? The Scarleteen Sex Readiness Checklist
- From ow to wow! Demystifying painful intercourse.
- Mouthing off on oral sex
- Is masturbation okay? (Yep!)
- Safer sex for your heart: looking after your emotions.
- Start your sexuality canon - further reading
- Can regular penetrative intercourse make your v****a too 'loose'? The short answer: no way!
- A few choice words about tightness. Answers to questions and myths about vaginal tightness/looseness.
- Magical Cups & Bloody Brides: Virginity in Context
- 20 Questions About Virginity. Scarleteen Interviews Hanne Blank, author of 'Virgin: An Untouched History'.

Sex, Etc. - Sex ed. for teens, by teens.

Cool Nurse - Teen health, Teen advice

Sin's Secret - A human sexuality blog written by a Gaian.

Sex - it's good for you, but can you have too much?


Women's Health (men, you should read these too!)

gURL.com - Excellent resource and community for young women.

Clitical - a great resource on the clitoris and female sexuality

Time for rethink on the clitoris - Sharon Mascall reports on Australian urologist Dr Helen O’Connell’s recent findings to do with the size and shape of the clitoris. It's a lot more expansive than we first though!
- Why would intercourse feel good for women? Excellent Scarleteen article on similar topic.

Clitoraid - An organisation aiming to build hospitals to restore the clitorises of women who have been 'circumsized'; i.e. mutilated. An interesting project.


Men's Health (ladies, you should read these too!)

Scarleteen Boyfriend - Pink Slip men's section

Condom links

Compiled by Angel Kumara

Condoms: know, use, no excuses.
Check the bottom of the page, has list of excuses and answers for them.

Putting it on and keeping it on. (Note: it states do not wear female and male at same time, nor double up; also: the importance of what not to do)

Condoms for the smaller gentleman.

Keep Condom main link.

Condom size matters--custom condom sizes. Information needed to know when you fit a condom.

The fit kit. A guide to finding your size.

The measure of a man, and the sheath size. More info on condom size importance.

TheyFit.com--at this point only a link to get updates on TheyFit condoms.

LGBT health - queer sex!

How do lesbians have sex? Read this informative Scarleteen article to find out.

LesbianSTD.com - Many women believe that there is no risk of contracting an STD during sex with other women. This is certainly not true, so lambda ladies, protect yourselves too.

Girl2Girl - Sex Ed. for women who have sex with women. Great page that may be viewed with or without pictures (you get to choose on the intro page).

The bees...and the bees: a homosexuality and bisexuality primer



Books

Ensler, Eve. 2001. The v****a Monologues. New York: Random House.
The famous and ever-evolving play about empowering women.

Gordon, Chris. 2004. The Book of Weird Sex. London: Allison & Busby.

Hite, Shere. 2004. The Hite Report. New York: Seven Stories Press.
Revolutionary scientific report on female sexuality from the 1970s.

Maines, Rachel P. 1999. The Technology of Orgasm. Baltimore: The John Hopkins University Press.

Schlain, Leonard. 1999. The Alphabet Versus the Goddess: The Conflict Between Word and Image. New York: Penguin/Compass.


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Caution: Slippery When Wet
A Guide to Lube by guest contributor Sophist

When you go lube-shopping, you'll need to consider:
- your taste and texture preferences;
- any skin sensitivities you and your partner may have; and
- what activities you will be using the lube for.

Be aware of:
- Nonoxynol-9 - This spermicide can be found in some lubrication, and can irritate the skin and cause urinary tract infections in women.
- Glycerin - may encourage yeast infections. Commonly in flavoured lubes, so make sure you check the tube before you use it.
- Silicone lubes - may cause irritation in those with skin sensitivities.
- Oil-based lubes and things like Vaseline can break down latex and promote infection.


Texture
- thinness vs. thickness, and
- cohesiveness (which facilitates movement) vs. viscosity (which stays put, wherever you put it). The more cohesive a lubrication, the easier to move faster during penetration. The more viscous a lube is, the more it will cling to the walls of the v****a or rectum.

Emollient lubricants like Astroglide, Liquid Silk, Probe and ID are great for gaining speed in vaginal thrusting. For a**l sex it would be better to start by coating the a**s and rectum with a heavier, viscous lube like Maximus, Embrace or Forplay. Then as things heat up you can introduce a more cohesive lubrication.


Types of Lube: water- and oil-based, and silicone

Water-based lubricant:
Water based lubricant such as Astroglide, Wet or ID is often preferred for its lightness and less intrusive feel. Clean-up is easy: it can be wiped off with a towel. Any that spills will eventually evaporate. It is safe to use with condoms, femidoms (female condoms), diaphragms, and vaginal rings, as well as for a**l sex.

Silicone lubricant:
Silicone lubes like Eros, ID Velvet and Wet Platinum are very long-lasting and have an oily feel to them; are tasteless and transfer heat; are glycerin-free; and are safe to use with condoms, femidoms, diaphragms, or vaginal rings. The drawback is that they can make oily stains if spilled, cannot be used with silicone toys (they melt them), can be very expensive, and are highly flammable; however, they can combine well with water-based lubes. These are good for vaginal sex, a**l sex (if you are experienced) as well as solo play. These lubes are not water-soluble, meaning they will not wash away easily with water like water-based lubes will, but this is handy for sex underwater.


Oil-based lubricant:
These lubes are generally not recommended for use as they break down the latex in condoms, dams, gloves, other latex safer-sex products (such as diaphragms and cervical caps). If you like the oily feel, instead use silicon-based lubricant when using a condom. Oil-based lube can leave a coating on the inside of the v****a or rectum, promoting infection, and is also difficult to wash off.


Warming and flavored lubricants:

Warming lubricant will warm when it comes in contact with moisture or air. If you’re curious, try putting a drop on your skin and blowing on it - it'll heat up. This may not be for everyone; some will like it, but some have complained of it being too hot.

Flavored lube is a fun addition to oral sex, but be careful: the glycerin contained in these lubes may encourage yeast infections. One brand that I would recommend is Sex Tarts. Often you can go to an adult store and buy small packages of lube for as little as thirty cents each.


Desensitizing lubricants:

Desensitizing lubes like a**l Eze have the ingredient Benzocaine, which is the same thing they use at the dentist’s office to numb your gums. This is a great product for those who wish to enjoy a**l sex without as much stinging. Be very careful with application - anything it touches will become numb; it’s imperative that the penetrating partner uses a condom so that they don’t become numb as well. You might also want to put on a plastic/latex glove while applying it to the a**s and rectum to avoid unwanted numbness in the hands.


Tips and tricks:

- Want to make your lubes last longer? Add a teaspoon of silicone-based lube to a 5 ounce bottle of water-based lube. Shake vigorously before each use.

- If you find yourself having to constantly reapply water-based lube, which can evaporate because of the friction during sex, keep a spray bottle of water beside the bed (or wherever you are!). The lube on your skin will become slick again.

- Find yourself having to pause the action and look for the bottle to reapply lube? Put a bit of Velcro on the bottle and another bit on an easily accessible place, like the head of the bed. Slap it on there and you’ll never have to look for the bottle during sex again!



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Sexual health: self-examination

Angel Kumara

Testicular and Scrotum Exams

Males should regularly at least one a week feel the genitals for the size and texture of each testicle. Be sure that there are not any differences in the feel, such as lumps on each of them.

Here is a web site that will give a better in depth look. Self examination.

I make the suggestion to do it in a warm shower and not after masturbation. This is because a self-examination of the testicles works best and will be more easily accomplished when the scrotum is not contracted and is loose. (After masturbation or sex, the testicles will have contracted due to have to ejaculation.)

If you notice any irregularities, get an appointment with your primary doctor a.s.a.p.

It is especially important to do this during the later stages of puberty and beyond.

Breast Examination
Much like I said for the checking of the testicles and scrotum, both males and females should perform regular breast self-examinations.

Breast examination.

This can be used for both males and females.

Though males are at a lower risk, they are still very much at risk.

Vaginal Exams

Lastly I want to also put emphasis about vaginal self-examination. Though I am not an expert in any of the fields of self-examinations, I can say that it is very important, because to know your body is to know when something is wrong.

Vaginal Exam

Other steps with use of speculum.

"Speculum" for those that don't know.

[Fizzlesticks]

Aphrodine

Let's talk about your hymen, honey.
by guest contributor, Aphrodine

A doctor checks an infant girl's hymen after childbirth. The only thing the doctor is looking for is an opening in the hymen. That is all. It doesn't matter how small the opening is, as long as the baby girl will be able to menstruate properly that's all the doctor cares about at that particular moment. If the infant girl was not born with an opening in her hymen, the doctor would perform a hymenostomy, which is a surgical procedure to create an opening in the hymen.

Hymens come in all shapes and sizes and are as unique as the girls who have them. Some are very thin and tear easily during sports or daily activity. Some hymens are unusually thick and kelloid, and it may be necessary to perform a hymenectomy, a surgical procedure to remove the hymen, in order for the girl to live a healthy and happy life. Some girls are born with very flexible hymens that may even still be present during childbirth, while other women aren't even born with hymens at all!

Learn what the shape of your hymen is. Get out a hand mirror and sit down in a comfortable position like maybe on your bed, or on the toilet. Use one hand to separate your labia lips and the other hand to hold the mirror. Don't be afraid to look at your own body! What does your hymen look like? Some hymens may be shaped in such a way that it is difficult or impossible to insert a tampon or a finger without experiencing pain or discomfort. If you think that this may e the case with you, you should talk to your doctor. Experiencing pain during vaginal penetration is a medical concern.

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Siriusly Kanis

You Don't Know d**k; Kanis's Guide to the p***s

Myths and Facts

Myth - The human p***s contains a bone, which is why an erection is called a boner.

Fact - The human p***s lacks a baculum, present in most other mammals, which is an erectile bone. The human p***s relies solely on blood to become erect.


Myth - I can buy some gadget or take a pill to make my p***s bigger, or at least that's what the emails say.

Fact - Outside of surgical alterations there is no reliable way to enlarge the p***s. Even if you were to find a way, the need to enlarge a p***s is rooted in psychology and feeling inadequate; meaning you could gain a foot and not feel like a man.


Myth - My p***s isn't even 6 inches long, I'm never going to satisfy a woman.

Fact - The average erect male p***s length is actually 5.1 inches. Most of the nerves in a woman's v****a are in the 1/3 of the v****a nearest the opening, which is to say about 3 inches inside the v****a.


Myth - My p***s curves/angles; I am a freak and will never satisfy a woman.

Fact - The p***s may angle in any direction while erect, from pointing to the floor to looking you in the eye. The p***s is also rarely straight, with curvature of up to 30 degrees being considered normal.


Myth - If a masturbate too much I may get hair on my palms/become blind/my p***s may fall off.

Fact - Masturbation is healthy and all of those claims are merely wives tales. The only things you may suffer from excessive masturbation are impressive forearms and a sore pecker.

Anatomy and Erections

The p***s consists of surprisingly few parts:

*The foreskin, which may or may not be present on a male, depending on circumcision. The foreskin is a loose piece of skin that folds over the glans of the p***s and serves to keep the glans moist.

*The glans, AKA the head of the p***s. The glans contains the largest group of nerves in the p***s.

*The Corpus Sponglosum and Corpora Cavernosa, are the sacks inside the shaft of the p***s that are engorged with blood to cause an erection.

*The urethra, which is part of the urinary tract terminates at the tip of the glans and is used both for urination and ejaculation.

~The p***s can attain almost any angle during erection with an angle of 60 to 85 degrees being most common.

~The p***s may have raised bumps of a slightly lighter colour around the head of the glans, these are common and called Pearly penile papules.

~The p***s may have small, raised, yellowish-white spots 1–2 mm in diameter, these are called Fordyce's spots and are nothing to worry about.

~The p***s may stay erect for more then 4 hours. This serious condition is called priapism, and if it occurs, a doctor must be immediately contacted.

Masturbation

I realize this is a bit of a touchy subject and I'm going to keep as pg-13 as possible.

~ A pillow is not a good masturbation aid, and using it as such may lead to cloth burns or damage the Corpus Sponglosum and Corpora Cavernosa.

~ Lube is not necessary, but may make masturbation more pleasant. Careful care must be taken with unlubed masturbation as ripping of the foreskin or tearing of the skin on the p***s can occur.

~ Good lubes include spit, water-based lubes and silicon-based lubes.

~ Soap/Shampoo is a bad idea and may actually cause chemical burns to the opening of the p***s.

~ Water is a poor lube in that your skin absorbs it and it evaporates faster then it lubricates. (Water-based lubricant, however, is very effective.)

~ Touching the prostate increases pleasure, but the prostate is only accessible through a**s. Stimulating the prostate does not make you gay, and those who say it does have never tried it themselves.

Questions or Additions? PM me and I'll try and address any concerns as fast as possible. I also have some experience in the BDSM/MASTERslave/TPE scene and may be able to address questions about that as well

[Vest Man the Original]

I just want to thank you, you are doing a wonderful thing, if there is anything I can do to help. Let me know.

[dora111]

bump

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PiercedPixie56

To be honest, i've never used protection @_@ Any im sort of paying for it, i was passed HPV, an incurable std that effects the female reproductive systems.

So my current partner and I have discussed it, and he's okay with it.
So kids, use a condom XD

Oh yummy, HPV: genital warts. I'm sorry to hear you've contracted that. I'm pleased to say I've just received the new vaccines against it. I hope you and your doctor have got it all under control, and it's good that your partner's understanding. But yes, condoms always.

b a b y d o l l

I'm on the pill, and I know my boyfriend and I are STD free, so we're good to go! No need for a condom haha

You're pretty safe, yes, but not entirely. There have been plenty of reports of conception even while on the Pill. Just make sure you're using it correctly! And of course, get those STD reports confirmed by a doctor if you haven't already. smile