females.

[belovedwarrior22]

Dude, you said in your post that you were growing more distant, not seeing each other that often, and only having casual sex. That, on top of the "break" thing should have tipped you off that she didn't actually consider you two to be dating. To her, she wasn't cheating. She probably thought it was clear that being on a break meant you could have casual sex with whoever.

That being said, you do have a right to be pissed off. She should have told you, if only because it can be risky to be sleeping with two people at the same time. She also should have told you so that you could weigh all the info before spending the time and money you did on things like presents, etc. But I don't really see this as cheating, per se. Pushing bounderies, yes. Doing something she should have known would hurt you, definitely. Breaking your trust, yes. Cheating...well, the "break" thing sort of releases her from the confines of an exclusive relationship so she didn't really cheat on you. But your feelings on the issue are completely valid.

But yeah, this isn't really an ED topic. There's a forum called Life Issues, that's where this should have gone.

[Sammich_Machine]

MIND FUNGUS

So I dated a girl named Rachael for about three years. We were each other's first.
I realized around last Halloween that I loved her.

Time goes by. I help her move into college. In December she tells me she wants a break.

No big deal. We've been on breaks before. This usually means a little space for a while. Time for ourselves you know?

I am a very liberated and liberating human being.

Christmas passes, I think we're still 'dating' but we're just distant. I buy her a beautiful green cloak.

New Years passes. I see her briefly that week.

Valentines comes and goes. I paint her something meaningful, and buy her an EXPENSIVE dinner at red lobster. We've been having casual sex, albeit not as often, for a while now.

February sixteenth, I find out that she's been ******** a guy named Ben for two months.

Now I am no saint. I've hurled my share of insults put-downs and slams. But I feel used here. She tells me that she doesn't feel guilty for ******** Ben. [the town bicycle] She tells me that she wants to experience life. Which is an idea I am very in favor of. However, she didn't tell me that she was ******** another man.
I feel extremely cheated on.

I feel like she's trying to get off on a technicality.

Her excuse is "We were on a break."

I am crushed.

Is there any possible way her defense can hold water?

Why don't you get your woman to make you a nice sammich, to make everything right.
It doesn't even have to have all the fixin'z, but to at least show that she knows you're the one in control.
...
Lol, fixin'z.

[Badtimes Russell]

Sammich_Machine

MIND FUNGUS

So I dated a girl named Rachael for about three years. We were each other's first.
I realized around last Halloween that I loved her.

Time goes by. I help her move into college. In December she tells me she wants a break.

No big deal. We've been on breaks before. This usually means a little space for a while. Time for ourselves you know?

I am a very liberated and liberating human being.

Christmas passes, I think we're still 'dating' but we're just distant. I buy her a beautiful green cloak.

New Years passes. I see her briefly that week.

Valentines comes and goes. I paint her something meaningful, and buy her an EXPENSIVE dinner at red lobster. We've been having casual sex, albeit not as often, for a while now.

February sixteenth, I find out that she's been ******** a guy named Ben for two months.

Now I am no saint. I've hurled my share of insults put-downs and slams. But I feel used here. She tells me that she doesn't feel guilty for ******** Ben. [the town bicycle] She tells me that she wants to experience life. Which is an idea I am very in favor of. However, she didn't tell me that she was ******** another man.
I feel extremely cheated on.

I feel like she's trying to get off on a technicality.

Her excuse is "We were on a break."

I am crushed.

Is there any possible way her defense can hold water?

Why don't you get your woman to make you a nice sammich, to make everything right.
It doesn't even have to have all the fixin'z, but to at least show that she knows you're the one in control.
...
Lol, fixin'z.

Sir or Madam I must sincerely express my empathy for this awful gimmick account you are currently in th' possession of. Godspeed.

[LetWhiteMakeRight14]

No. She cheated. Anything she says is just trying to put spin on it. Dump her before she convinces you not to.

[Badtimes Russell]

LetWhiteMakeRight14

No. She cheated. Anything she says is just trying to put spin on it. Dump her before she convinces you not to.

And I am in even greater empathy for the awful gimmick lifetime you are spending in the possession of. Sir, I can only wish the best to your speedy recovery from putting a large investment in obsessing over nothing at all.

[LetWhiteMakeRight14]

Badtimes Russell

LetWhiteMakeRight14

No. She cheated. Anything she says is just trying to put spin on it. Dump her before she convinces you not to.

And I am in even greater empathy for the awful gimmick lifetime you are spending in the possession of. Sir, I can only wish the best to your speedy recovery from putting a large investment in obsessing over nothing at all.

What's that supposed to mean?

[Badtimes Russell]

LetWhiteMakeRight14

Badtimes Russell

LetWhiteMakeRight14

No. She cheated. Anything she says is just trying to put spin on it. Dump her before she convinces you not to.

And I am in even greater empathy for the awful gimmick lifetime you are spending in the possession of. Sir, I can only wish the best to your speedy recovery from putting a large investment in obsessing over nothing at all.

What's that supposed to mean?

I hope yall can relent from yer burden of care.