MercurysJosiegirl
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- Posted: Mon, 03 Nov 2014 12:40:21 +0000
Paprika Muffin
MercurysJosiegirl
Paprika Muffin
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Paprika Muffin
No, it's not. Black women like being catcalled as much as white women do, which is to say not at all. It's normalized, but not normal.
There have been quite a few in this very thread who have said they don't mind it and even like it, so your claim that women don't like it at all is false.
Good for them. I just know if I get catcalled I feel like they are looking at me like a piece of meat and not an actual person and that makes me really uncomfortable. And I was simply breaking a stereotype that black women might like getting cat called more, and from a good friend of mine telling me her experience, no they don't. It just HAPPENS to them more often.
I don't like using terms that imply that it encompasses all. Some/Many don't like it. But there are still many that aren't bothered by it. Cat-calls don't bother me, its when they try to go beyond whistling or yelling out something about my body, that I pull out the pepper spray, if I'm not with Miss.. my partner. She's military and she packs quite a punch. She beat the crap out of a guy twice her size at a bar because he tried to grope me.
Hmm. I understand your point, and it's cool that it doesn't bother you or some other people in the thread. But it does bother a rather large majority and make them feel uncomfortable and unsafe. Therefore, the problem should be addressed.
I do agree that it does happen to a lot of women, but there is no data that suggests its as pandemic as NoMercy keeps implying it is. Several have addressed the thought process that goes behind it with a lot of men; they think they're complimenting a woman when they do it. People like NoMercy completely dismiss that and make the claim that its sole purpose is to intimidate. I dislike it when those with different views are dismissed and then when a person asks for proof of claims made that request is ignored.
Paprika Muffin
I noticed you calling Miss Mercy 'paranoid' and such, and I'd kind of like to address that. Honestly, I am the same way. I get scared of whether or not men see me as another person with their own thoughts and goals, or a GIRL. Something guys want to date and later have sexual relations with. That is my purpose to them. Is this absurd? Yes. It is. I doubt all men are like this.
I can see the point you're making and I'd like to thank you for making it without the bullying tactics she used. Maybe I see things like catcalling differently because of upbringing. I was raised around a lot of boys, I come from a large family and most of my aunts and uncles had boys, and I have three brothers myself. Perhaps I grew up with a different insight to them as a result. I don't know. Or maybe I'm naive because I don't think that every man who catcalls is out to hurt me.
Paprika Muffin
However, when a man catcalls a woman, is he REALLY complimenting them?
For many of them, that's what they think they're doing. Like the guy in the video that someone else posted. He was trying to be nice, complimented the woman, tried to get to know her, because he found her attractive, and lets face it few people strike up conversations with random people they don't find attractive, and the woman went on a tirade about how he was just out to knock her up and take off.
Paprika Muffin
I like compliments. I work hard to make myself look good. So I like compliments like 'You look gorgeous' or 'You look beautiful today!'. What I don't like is 'Hello beautiful!' or other such things. In the former, they are complimenting me aesthetically. they want ME to know I look beautiful today. Catcalling is not at all about making the woman feel good. It is done to relieve boredom, a type of 'male bonding', and entertainment. It is not about empowering the woman being catcalled. Because she is not important. She is a walking sexual object for men to oogle at, and this is extremely dehumanizing. She is no longer a person. She is a walking pair of tits to these men. And THAT is what bothers me about catcalling.
Now you're doing the very same thing Mercy did. You're making a broad claim that catcalling is only for one thing; intimidation. I'd like some proof of this. Not a blog, but an actual study done by professionals, that says that's what catcalling is and that its not anything but that. I know from interactions I have had with males that to many of them they do think that catcalling, which includes whistling, is a form of compliment, which is why they don't get why a woman gets pissy when they do it.