Sorry, I only met her yesterday through stumbling around through different threads.
No offense if it's a strange way to find out someone's gender. I just assume it's the same as their avatar's until I'm told differently, most times. ;]
Yeah, gender on Gaia is a funny thing. XD My policy is to assume that the real gender matches the avatar until told otherwise, although I'll sometimes make guesses based on behavior. And no matter what flavor of the rainbow people think I am, I just laugh and correct them. XD (I'm a cis-lady, too.)
People who get worked up about assumptions of gender on Gaia are weird. XD