One of the things that annoyed me when I tried watching Gundam (08th MS Team, if you were wondering) was that there was this female character, with a doctorate or something, competent and professional... and then when the "new pilot" of the Gundam walked by, she turned into a giggling schoolgirl, and did not regain any of her intelligence.
For some anime series, women are portrayed as nothing more than love interests, potential or otherwise. Still, a lot of the shoujo I've seen do give female characters their due.
It's all a matter of which anime you watch, I suppose.