Dude, it's just the anime that's bad but most SAO fans became fans because of the anime itself. The novel is fine and there's nothing to blame about it since it's the actual story.
I kinda agree with you that SAO "anime" fandom is still going on and it's getting quite annoying (even though I am also a SAO fan myself). Unfortunately, we have to deal with it because "virtual reality" theme is a popular idea and the attraction.
Although, the Japanese are not making a big fuss of it as much anymore compared to the English/Other speakers which is kinda sad.
And yes, there's other better anime to watch. (I did like Sora no Otoshimono and Ah! My Goddess you mentioned.)
Lucky for you that's the last you'll see of the shipping considering we probably won't get a season 2, and if we do it'll all be GGO. The shipping along with the series' hype will probably die down soon anyways.
SAO is a good show. Of course there's going to be annoying fans, but there's decent ones too. You just don't notice the normal fans because the annoying ones attract more attention, deal with it. smile