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Post: 40291719_1 created on Mon May 12, 2008 8:34 amPosted: Mon May 12, 2008 8:34 am
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Ok; so here is the situation:

You are someone who wouldn't mind sex, but have particular views that you really want to find in a girl. Well, you finally meet one *or a guy if you are a girl or bi or gay.

turns out that they never want to have sex though. They are a perfect match for you though; they share all your values and beliefs.
My question is: stay with them and sacrifice sex? or break up with them for that reason? I am kinda in such a situation and plan on staying in...I want your opinions too.



*they still kiss and cuddle
EDIT: I have decided to stick with this relationship, but still really want your views on the subject.
EDIT#2:Guyyyyyyyys! This thread won't keep itself alive; please leave a comment. Maybe even describe alternate activities you yourself participate in during the times other couples are having sex.

like:

watching a movie
taking night walks
photography
going out to eat
etc...

Put out some thoughts on this too guys and gals
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C'mon guys, let's keep this thread alive smile
 
     

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Post: 40291719_2 created on Mon May 12, 2008 8:38 amPosted: Mon May 12, 2008 8:38 am
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Unless you're asexual, sex plays a fairly sizable role in all healthy, adult relationships that you get in. Given that I am NOT asexual, no, I would not choose to stay in a relationship with someone who was. I would be their best friend, though.

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Post: 40291719_3 created on Mon May 12, 2008 8:48 amPosted: Mon May 12, 2008 8:48 am
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does anyone know if an asexual-sexual relationship can lead to mental disorders down the line?
 
     

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Post: 40291719_4 created on Mon May 12, 2008 8:50 amPosted: Mon May 12, 2008 8:50 am
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Wow, thats a tough one, not sure i know what to say to ya
     
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Post: 40291719_5 created on Mon May 12, 2008 8:52 amPosted: Mon May 12, 2008 8:52 am
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Wow, thats a tough one, not sure i know what to say to ya
Well then if you have nothing else to do simply keep the thread alive; I need help cry
thanks for posting anyway
 
     

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Post: 40291719_6 created on Mon May 12, 2008 8:52 amPosted: Mon May 12, 2008 8:52 am
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Probably not a flown blown mental disorder, but it could cause some major stress. You also never know if the person will eventually open to sex. A lot of people use the excuse of asexuality by saying they are not interested in sex; if the person were truly asexual, chances are, they would not even be interested in pursuing a romantic relationship. I say try it out, it's not like you can't break it off and remain friends if it doesn't work out.
     
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Post: 40291719_7 created on Mon May 12, 2008 8:55 amPosted: Mon May 12, 2008 8:55 am
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I must assume that your young, say around 18 or maybe less. Most asexual people make great friends, but have a hard time in long term committed monogamous relationships.

The first question that you must ask your self, IMHO would be why is this person asexual?

I think that will shed a great deal of light on your choice. Being sexual is a major part of a health partnership, no matter what your sexual preference might be.


Best of luck with whatever you do,
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Post: 40291719_8 created on Mon May 12, 2008 8:56 amPosted: Mon May 12, 2008 8:56 am
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I just have always felt that seeking pleasure for this thing in my pants seems a bit greedy...I'm thinking I can go without but I just don't know. She's a rare find, matches up with my views (even a vegetarian like me!) but...I wonder if she would dump me if she just could tell somehow that I was feeling bad...you know b/c as they all say "it's best for me"
     

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Post: 40291719_9 created on Mon May 12, 2008 8:57 amPosted: Mon May 12, 2008 8:57 am
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does anyone know if an asexual-sexual relationship can lead to mental disorders down the line?


Being asexual is sort of viewed by the general populace as a mental disorder.


"you know b/c as they all say "it's best for me" - this is a total out line, one that is feed to someone to lessen their hurt feelings. It takes one hell of a person to say that, and really mean it.
 
     
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Post: 40291719_10 created on Mon May 12, 2008 8:59 amPosted: Mon May 12, 2008 8:59 am
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I must assume that your young, say around 18 or maybe less. Most asexual people make great friends, but have a hard time in long term committed monogamous relationships.

The first question that you must ask your self, IMHO would be why is this person asexual?

I think that will shed a great deal of light on your choice. Being sexual is a major part of a health partnership, no matter what your sexual preference might be.


Best of luck with whatever you do,
Calosis


ya; 18 going on 19 and dead serious when I say I am crushingly lonely. I don't know why she is; she says she gets aroused but not as much as to want to perform sex. idk what to make of the situation; btw I love your sig.
     

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Post: 40291719_11 created on Mon May 12, 2008 9:02 amPosted: Mon May 12, 2008 9:02 am
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does anyone know if an asexual-sexual relationship can lead to mental disorders down the line?


Being asexual is sort of viewed by the general populace as a mental disorder.


"you know b/c as they all say "it's best for me" - this is a total out line, one that is feed to someone to lessen their hurt feelings. It takes one hell of a person to say that, and really mean it.

is "you'll find someone great one day" another of those crap lines? neutral I feel it is...
 
     

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Post: 40291719_13 created on Mon May 12, 2008 9:06 amPosted: Mon May 12, 2008 9:06 am
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The trick is to surprise them.
Totally rape the s**t out of their anuses and say the following:
YOU DON'T LIKE THIS DO YOU??? WE WILL HAVE SEX FROM NOW ON OR ELSE.


anyone with real advice? stare

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Post: 40291719_14 created on Mon May 12, 2008 9:23 amPosted: Mon May 12, 2008 9:23 am
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anyone else? geez...

a troll bragging about his imaginary p***s size gets more posts than my serious issue...Gaia, you dissapoint me a bit more every day...
 
     

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Post: 40291719_15 created on Mon May 12, 2008 9:33 amPosted: Mon May 12, 2008 9:33 am
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Unless you're asexual, sex plays a fairly sizable role in all healthy, adult relationships that you get in. Given that I am NOT asexual, no, I would not choose to stay in a relationship with someone who was. I would be their best friend, though.

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^This.

You'd be frustrated and unsatisfied all the time, and it'd be their fault. Not exactly the best ground for a successful relationship, is it?
     
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